you don't know how much i needed that.
I'm always interested in self conditioning.
I am going to read this, throughly!
| INTP Discussion Forum > People and Psychology > You Can Choose to Be Happy |
| Posted by: Odyssey Jun 24 2004, 07:37 AM |
| Excellent website to explore: http://front.csulb.edu/tstevens/hcontent.htm It's an entire book posted online by the author (no ads!) For a subtitled overview I recommend Appendix A: http://front.csulb.edu/tstevens/hhapchkl.htm Or for a more narrative overview, go here: http://front.csulb.edu/tstevens/hsummary.htm Basically, it does nothing less than show you (quite accurately, I believe) how to build long-term happiness. Enjoy! ~Odyssey |
| Posted by: utopmk19 Jun 24 2004, 08:18 AM |
| Thanks Odyssey, you don't know how much i needed that. I'm always interested in self conditioning. I am going to read this, throughly! |
| Posted by: InertiaSpectrola Jun 24 2004, 04:09 PM |
| Another great book on this subject is Viktor Frankl's Mans Search for Meaning. He describes his experience in Auschwitz and explains why living in a death camp didn't make him into a depressed person, its very moving. |
| Posted by: Metimbo=IMMT Jun 24 2004, 06:57 PM | ||
I second that. Great book. ~Tim |
| Posted by: Odyssey Jun 24 2004, 08:34 PM |
| utopmk19: You're welcome =) Inertia & Tim: Agreed! BTW I think this ebook actually mentions/quotes Frankl - do tell if you come across it. Another very good book, though probably less well known, is "How to Find the Work You Love" by Laurence G. Boldt (1996), which is essentially another way of approaching How To Be Happy and Feel Meaningful. FYI starting today I'll be writing a series of mostly-public entries about the latter book in my livejournal (link in sig.), so read and comment there if you're interested. (If you don't have an LJ account: You'll be able to read public entries and comment "anonymously", but you won't be able to access LJ-Friends-only posts for security reasons.) One of my favorite pages of the ebook is http://front.csulb.edu/tstevens/h12maslo.htm, summarizing Maslow. ~Odyssey |
| Posted by: Thanos Jun 24 2004, 09:53 PM |
| One book i enjoyed reading was The Art of Happiness by Howard Cutler and The Dalai Lama. It doesn't focus on Buddhism but more on his philosphy and ways of his thinking. Great book to read. |
| Posted by: Vagabond Jun 25 2004, 04:07 PM |
| Am I the only one that finds books that give tips on happiness/self confidence/etc boring and unpractical...? I don't think there is a single way to happiness, things work differently for each one of us. |
| Posted by: Division56 Jun 25 2004, 05:21 PM |
| [whispers] I bet she's unhappy! [/whispers] |
| Posted by: Vagabond Jun 25 2004, 05:26 PM | ||
[whispers] I will kick this guy's butt if I ever get him in close range [/whispers]By the way, why do I always seem to hit "edit" instead of "quote" when I am trying to quote your posts in particular, and only then, Division...?  (I realise it in time lately though  ) |
| Posted by: flan2dave Jun 25 2004, 07:25 PM |
| I agree vaga. The author tries to reach to broad an audience with a concept too vague in meaning. As a result the author ends up giving less than ideal advice. I could pick up on some bias against introversion, for example. I recall this comment (paraphrased) "I've known people who have gone from withdrawn and quiet to outgoing and assertive." I would disentegrate (sp?) if I pulled something like that. It's confusing, the author oscillates from encouraging changing who you are, to advising excepting yourself as is. I think this article provides a refreshing take on happiness, posted at the introvert advantage forum: http://theintrovertadvantage.com/forum/display_topic_threads.asp?ForumID=1&TopicID=226&PagePosition=1 |
| Posted by: Thanos Jun 25 2004, 07:30 PM |
| Well of course you can choose to be happy. I can pretty much trigger my feelings at anytime. I tend to trigger happiness the most. Books can't tell you to be happy. Just about all self-help books are what they are, self-help. They just use ways that work for them and many others. But as for me I've read many differnt self-help books and even took self-help seminars. Nothing worked for me until just got up one day and said Fuck it! I am going to start moving without care of what others might think. But the truth is you can't change overnight and you can't succeed in one try. I'm not saying it is impossible to change overnight or succeed in one try, just unlikly. I prefer long term plans, and slowly moving towards my goal. Like a train, it takes time to start moving but once you start you can go fast and stay fast. |