INTP Discussion Forum > People and Psychology > Moving

Posted by: file cabinet Jun 24 2004, 01:52 AM

I've lived a couple places and went to a few different high schools.. what has your experience been when fitting into a new environment? a slow agonizing transitition? There is only one or two people I still talk to from high school. I haven't moved anywhere new since the end of college.. still living at home and freeloading which has been good enough so far.

Posted by: Odyssey Jun 24 2004, 07:24 AM

Well, on my part I've moved about every two years since birth, so I'm really used to it. I've also gotten plenty of practice making new friends... it's slow, but I know how to get into the 'right' crowds. Is it unusual to enjoy moving often? ~Odyssey

Posted by: Jkrs Jun 24 2004, 09:41 AM

There was a period when my folks and I had to move every year or so, and in slightly more than a day I'm going to do it again. Fitting into a new place is rather difficult, as I want to watch before testing the waters myself. (For that matter, people-watching is a fair bit of the fun in moving or going to a new school/club/social arena. See if one can spot the patterns without the familiar faces and personae attached.) It takes me a few years to fully settle in, but I'm used to mentally cutting the ties to wherever I've just left.

Posted by: corina Jun 25 2004, 01:03 PM

I've moved every four years or so since I was small because of my parent's job & situation. The way I saw it, it was always a chance to start everything all over. If there are things you'd have changed, or if you have learned things from others while you've been with them, you can try them out in your new environment without feeling too uncomfortable; sometimes, it's hard to change because even when you change, the people who surround you may still see you as you were before. Otherwise, for friends, it might be slow enough as a process but you can still keep in touch with your old pals through internet or regular mail and go and visit them; it's not because you don't live in a place anymore that you should cut all tires. Plus there are great people everywhere, and it's exciting changing environments, seeing and experiencing new things with new people... or at least I find it is

Posted by: Amy Jun 27 2004, 05:11 AM

I hate moving. I haven't lived in the same place for a period of over 6 months straight since college. Even as a kid, my family moved every few years. I think the longest period I stayed anywhere was during middle school/high school, where I stayed almost 7 years. The worst part for me these days is getting the new job. I'm tired of getting jobs that I know that I'm not going to keep for over a few months, then have to quit just to get another one I know I'm not going to keep. Everytime I move, it takes me a little bit longer to get a new job. I'm also tired of not having established friends. I never feel like I really know anyone. Yeah, it's possible to keep in touch online and over the phone and etc, but it's just not the same. It's not even close to experiencing people in the flesh and actually being able to DO things together on a regular basis. At first I didn't mind it and I guess the experiences were cool, but I'm burned out. Hopefully after this next move I won't have to do it again for a long, long time. I just want the feeling of familiarity.

Posted by: FireChoice Jun 27 2004, 05:27 AM

When I was really little I moved around a ton. I have been to approximately 12 different schools, all along the Eastern US. It is interesting meeting so many people. Interestingly enough though, I have stayed in the same junior high and high school and in Florida for all of my duration of these schoolings, and I will be going into 11th this upcoming year.