| INTP Discussion Forum > Online Tests > Aggression |
| Posted by: Division56 May 19 2004, 04:27 PM |
| Post away! |
| Posted by: Lovechild May 19 2004, 10:30 PM |
| Active I'm sad to say, working on it though. |
| Posted by: Metimbo=IMMT May 24 2004, 03:59 PM |
| I'm usually passive. If someone pisses me off, I'm more likely to put them on the "5 year plan" than to let them know right off. Of course, I CAN and HAVE been active aggressive as well, but not very often. ~Tim |
| Posted by: NGene May 24 2004, 04:15 PM |
| Pretty active. If something or someone really pisses me off, I'm very likely to let them know right there and then. I was a lot more passively aggressive a couple of years ago, but I've become a little more extraverted during these years, so I guess that's why I can express my anger more openly now. |
| Posted by: Vagabond May 24 2004, 09:57 PM |
Well hm... I don't get really angry. I might get pissed or frustrated with someone, but not really angry. Maybe I repress anger, as someone has suggested to me...? In all cases, there are no future-oriented plans in my agenda. I think I variate from aggressive to passive, however I rarely let people have it for good. I only do that when physically threatened and I think it is mostly my secondary wing going counterphobic than anger breaking loose. What can I say... I will declare passive...  |
| Posted by: Amberite May 26 2004, 12:27 PM |
| Active all the way, I'm afraid. I get angry and frustrated extremely easily, and react rather stormily (anger being my only emotion that comes out easily - or at all). |
| Posted by: NGene May 26 2004, 02:33 PM | ||
I must confess I'm like that too. I have a very hard time showing appreciation, love or affection, no matter how deeply I feel, but showing anger... no problems. Maybe it's because I usually feel very vulnerable when I show emotions, but showing anger doesn't make me feel vulnerable so I don't fear showing my anger. |
| Posted by: Division56 May 26 2004, 02:48 PM |
| I agree, the anger is so accessable. Maybe it has something to do with being intp? I'm passive to a point and then the intp pushed too far switch turns on and the active anger comes out. I never seem to have trouble showing scorn though........ |
| Posted by: Spartan26 May 26 2004, 06:15 PM |
| I don't really get that angry too often. When somebody does something that really pisses me off I supposed I try to rush to figure out why that person did it. Even if not to agree just make sense of the action or words. I try to forgive and not hang on to things. I think I do a good job at this but when I get frustrated or feel hurt or mistreated, it's amazing how often I'll think of some other time I've been wronged in the past. Mostly, I'm fine with things any way they come so it's hard to get angry. "Don't have salmon today? Fine, I'll have the swordfish." It's amazing what babies I'll see in the malls of LA. I also find that anger, my anger anyway, is directly correlated to my expectations. I drive across town to pick up my prescription and they have no record of the order. Most people would go ballastic. Most right-thinking people, probably. I'm usually choking exhaust, legs cramping from holding the clutch inbetween gears, thinking, "watch, I'm gonna get over there, not find any parking then wait 20 minutes for someone to come off break and then they won't have my prescription filled..." So when it happens that I have to wait, it's like - heh, big deal. Either that or my throat is too sore or I'm too sick to fight with anyone, anyway. Boundaries. I need to learn to set better boundaries. I think people take my flexible nature for granted, or I don't often initially realize when people are doing things that are wearing me down, so then the breaking point comes, and it's like there's no turning back. Whereas if I had set better boundaries, I could've prevented the explosion/fallout/whatever. Amazingly though, someone could be totally at fault and cross the line, I'll get upset and then feel guilty for it. I need better ways to deal with that. |
| Posted by: brainstorm Jun 4 2004, 05:56 PM |
| Active mostly. I usually react pretty quickly when I get angry and I can be pretty aggressive sometimes. |
| Posted by: misspadfoot Jun 6 2004, 01:02 AM |
| I'm much more passively aggressive - most of the time. The better I know someone, the more likely I am to show my anger at them. I have a tendency to let things go rather easily, though. I'll get inwardly mad and then forget about it. Brooding does not make me angrier - it usually helps me calm down, even when I don't really want to calm down. Sometimes I will show irritation, though. I can be very good at sulking, especially around people I know, like my parents. Sometimes I even do it around a teacher who's also a good friend of mine - but I need to stop, because she's writing me a college recommendation When I'm conscious of myself doing it, I try to stop, because I know it's a really stupid plea for attention. The other way I show my anger is in short, clipped, angry-rebellious-and-sometimes-sarcastic comments. Those I don't mind so much, as they're kind of fun I'm trying to master the art of sarcasm, but I'm afraid I'm not too good at it. |
| Posted by: 10of13 Jun 11 2004, 01:47 PM |
| I'm like a vulcano wating to erupt. Just irritate me enough and the sparks will fly... |
| Posted by: Strephonade Jun 11 2004, 06:21 PM |
| Passive--but the better I know someone, the more likely I am to try to discuss my frustrations, irritations, etc., getting things out in the open where they can be resolved. Otherwise, I try to give the benefit of the doubt, forgive them, when I can (forgetting is another thing entirely). Likely, they are not completely aware of circumstances, and would not have behaved the way they did had they known. However it's very difficult in the heat of the moment (at which we've arrived after a prolonged period of repeated insults) to relinquish that intensity of emotion, especially if I feel cornered--then all bets are off, 'cause there's no contest whatsoever.  Five years, ten years, an instant--it's all the same. Time has no meaning when I can taste revenge's sweet kiss, and unless you're looking for annihilation, you'd best not....  *ahem* Did I mention my immense capacity for compassion? Not to mention tremendous efforts at expressing love and appreciation, which may be taken in ways unexpected, due to my being a complete idiot at times. If anyone here feels wronged or wounded by a remark I've made, perhaps because I've not read through all the posts in every thread, let me just say now that I am truly, sincerely sorry, and I apologize. And if no one does, then let me apologize in advance. You are all beautiful, amazing people, and I mean that! There are few others in the world for whom I would make such an effort, and truly, I do not regret it. Let the only things I have been guilty of be admiration, and love. "Love unaccompanied by criticism is not love...Peace unaccompanied by reproof is not peace." --Genesis Rabbah 54:3 |
| Posted by: drybonesdancing Jun 11 2004, 06:52 PM | ||
| I agree mostly with what Spartan26 said. I generally don't get angry because i try to look at it from the other person's perspective and i give a lot of leeway for people who are different (the 99% of the world). But when someone pushes it too far, i just get fed up and there it goes. Or at least that was what happened today, i had this showdown with my ex- direct boss. I was really pissed with the way she handled the transfer and there would be no end to it unless she changed her style of management. I think i got her into trouble with the company's management and now i feel bad for that.
Ah... Another thing is i hate things like that. I think i'm really tired from all the emotional expenditure.  |
| Posted by: Jkrs Jun 11 2004, 08:52 PM |
| Selected passive, as I usually just want the person to go away so I can deal with the consequences of whatever it is they've just done. I'll probably want to talk to them again (or at least not mind) in an hour or two. I can be pushed too far, but it takes a great deal and I usually manage to get out of the situation before that. |
| Posted by: Strephonade Jun 12 2004, 01:48 AM |
| Emoting takes a lot out of me, and I can never be entirely sure of the results of that emoting, but then, it's never a one-way street--if the other person doesn't say what's on his/her mind, then it is in a way, accepting things as they are. If a situation is really intolerable, then we should stand up and say something. This is the only way in which things can change. Preferably, we would all discuss things like rational adults, but if things break down, so be it. Sometimes, that's the best way to find out what's really been eating at a person. Anyway, isn't it one of the 4 phases of discussion--storming (the others being forming, (storming, next) norming, performing (and sometimes mourning)?  What's life without a little debate, now and again, anyway?  |
| Posted by: utopmk19 Jun 12 2004, 09:34 AM |
Active,and very sneaky and underhanded...likely to slit their throat in their sleep.  |
| Posted by: Division56 Jun 12 2004, 12:27 PM | ||
I've always thought of myself as more of a poisoner. I'd like to sit across from them smiling while they ate the special cake. Now you can all back away in terror.  |
| Posted by: Horger Jul 7 2004, 06:04 PM |
| I'm very passive most of the time, but my anger fades quickly. I don't keep grudges for long. |
| Posted by: adamjaskie Jul 18 2004, 02:02 AM |
| Passive, usually. You have to really, REALLY piss me off to get me actively aggressive, but if that happens, I REALLY blow up. |